Stream of consciousness VII
Sun Jan 25, 2009 02:16 EST (UTC -5)Last weekend I was watching TV with this guy from down the hall. He had been having a pretty bad week. He had lost his student ID card... and his backpack. I don't know how, but there you go.
A few days later, Jon asked me if I knew what had happened with him. "Oh yeah," I said. "He lost his student ID card and his backpack." "No, not that," Jon said.
Apparently he was hanging out with another guy in the parking garage behind the building, and they were on the third floor, and he was sitting on the edge and fell off. I was told that he was pretty intact, but an article in the major student newspaper said he had suffered injuries to his face. They also said he had been smoking marijuana but printed a retraction the next day. They didn't, however, correct their statement that he was a 20-year-old sophomore when he's actually a 19-year-old freshman.
That's probably a good reason not to wish for having an interesting life. You just might get it. (Or, you might not. Whatever. No one's just granting you wishes.) Anyway, he's a great guy and I wish him a speedy recovery.
Why else am I here? Oh yeah, to talk about other stuff. Of course. This is The World of Stuff, after all.
Here is a stuff. It's a fun fact. (Yes, I did mean to say "a stuff." I used to talk to a Korean girl on Skype and she spoke perfect English except she would say "stuffs" instead of "stuff.") Anyway, here's an interesting foodstuff: I have not engaged in any courtship-related activities this year. And by this year, I mean this school year, beginning in August. And by courtship-related activities, I mean August. No. Damn it. I mean no dating. (Ah, my consciousness. It is such a stream.)
I really have not met anyone that I would be interested in dating. And by be interested in dating, I mean would be able to ask out. I know a lot of interesting girls. And by a lot, I mean some. But they have boyfriends or whatever. It's always something. "It's Complicated!" Oh, whatever.
The other day it occurred to me that I am now 19 and a half years old. It's less than six months till I'm in my twenties. I know I shouldn't be thinking this way, but I sort of feel like the clock is ticking. People my age are tired of high-school games. They want to meet someone to settle down with in a long-term relationship or something. I know people who are married.
So one time I apparently blinked and missed learning how to go about with dating and stuff. I am still learning. But now that I know that you should not just ask an acquaintance on a dinner date, I haven't had a chance to use that information. What is it, you meet someone and you just sort of click with them and you hang out a few times and then you go to the movies or whatever and it's magical and I don't even know what comes after that. But I just can't make it click. (Sounds like a personal problem.) I wish I had spent more time interacting with people rather than just chillin'.
In spite of these impediments, I do imagine that I'll have kids someday. I guess it's inevitable to imagine that, whatever reality seems to be indicating. But anyway, Jordon Jr. is not going to get a children's encyclopedia. He's going to get a baseball glove. And relax, I won't name him Jordon Jr. Jeez.
Okay, hive mind, help me out here: you've all mostly probably maybe met someone you find special in that special way. Even if you hate them now, you probably still like the memories, perhaps. Was there a moment where you "clicked"? Or, you know what? Just tell me how you met your significant other(s) and how they became attracted to you or vice versa. I will be using this personal information for my personal gain, and I will credit you if you wish. This Awkward Placing Of My Arm Around Your Shoulder Is Brought To You By [your name here]!
This is already running long, but I have to have one, so: a crazy PDF chart showing radio frequency allocations in the United States. It is pretty crowded. (Via J-Walk Blog)
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16 comments
#1 by sean: Sun Jan 25, 2009 03:30 EST (UTC -5)
personal experience:
1. saw her in band, kinda talked to her once or twice with a mutual friend
2. friended (i think that word will be in the dictionary soon enough) her on facebook
3. lurked on said facebook and found her favorite band
4. started listening to said favorite band and used quotes from them in my statuses (i know this is quite possibly the lamest method ever used, but i still find it better than internet dating)
5. got comments from her complimenting my good taste in music
6. began to talk on facebook
7. began to talk on facebook A LOT
8. began to hang out in real life
9. began to hang out in real life A LOT (my current point in time)
10. (Step 10 will be filled in when a new point develops in the relationship... it just looked better to have 10 steps instead of 9)
so there you go. pretty pathetic way of going about it, but hey, it seems to be working well and that's what matters to me. and i think we've definitely clicked, but still not sure whether it's a "friends" click or a deeper click. either way, a click is a click and i'm thankful for that, because i at the very least made a new best friend, and i am quite happy with that even if that's as far as it goes.
the end.
#2 by Luke: Sun Jan 25, 2009 03:36 EST (UTC -5)
Jordon Jr will actually be Jordan Jr.
#3 by kristen: Sun Jan 25, 2009 12:56 EST (UTC -5)
first of all, lol. you're funny.
second of all, i know i def don't have an illustrious track record like other people who will probably comment after me, but from my experience, i like the idea of becoming friends with someone BEFORE getting anything to "happen", as it were. girls get pretty freaked out if you met them four seconds ago and ask them out. they automatically think you're a creeper (NOT a creepster). so if you find someone you think you may like, start to become friends with them. i'm a true believer in the theory of if you hang out with someone enough, you start to like them, romantically. i know platonic relationships exist between the sexes, but usually one party or the other is thinking of something more than friendship. (in my case, it's always the one who is thinking of more, i'm not; if i'm thinking of more, they're not).
ok, enough sisterly advice before you vomit from my girl talk.
#4 by Jordon Kalilich: Sun Jan 25, 2009 14:28 EST (UTC -5)
Thanks for the great replies. I didn't even vomit that much!
#5 by sean: Mon Jan 26, 2009 02:21 EST (UTC -5)
i agree with kristen. becoming friends first is definitely the way to go, not only because it's a lot less creepy, but because it lets you get a much better idea of how that person really is than from just looking at them and thinking you want to date that person.
#6 by sean: Mon Jan 26, 2009 02:22 EST (UTC -5)
ps. Girl Talk is amazing. Not so much the actual talking of girls, but the dj lol.
#7 by casey: Mon Jan 26, 2009 22:37 EST (UTC -5)
I totally agree with kristen, any guy who has asked me out without really knowing me I usually just write off as a creeper.
Every guy I've been with I kinda just knew we clicked. You feel like you can be be a total dork or say anything to them and everything will be okay. You just feel comfortable around the person. I can't describe it but when you look at them you're automatically 10 times happier, even if you're still just friends.
#8 by Jordon Kalilich: Mon Jan 26, 2009 22:42 EST (UTC -5)
This is going to sound dumb, but now I remember that I already knew I couldn't just do some random askings out. In fact, I did do some rapport-building last year. I think what I meant to complain about this time was how I don't know what to do during the whole rapport thing.
Girl Talk is excellent, though. I can't stop listening to his stuff.
#9 by TJ: Mon Jan 26, 2009 23:24 EST (UTC -5)
cookies...
#10 by Jordon Kalilich: Mon Jan 26, 2009 23:27 EST (UTC -5)
I agree, TJ. Cookies.
#11 by kristen: Tue Jan 27, 2009 12:38 EST (UTC -5)
we should see girl talk in, i think, orlando? i think he's coming in march.
#12 by Jordon Kalilich: Tue Jan 27, 2009 16:55 EST (UTC -5)
But doesn't he just dance around while his album is playing? What's the point?
#13 by Sarah: Tue Jan 27, 2009 17:25 EST (UTC -5)
I think you can meet people any number of ways. I met my current boyfriend through his sister-in-law, who i've known for five years. But you can meet people anywhere... school is a great time to meet people. I have been asked out a few times by guys that I would have said yes to (if not for the whole, you know, boyfriend thing).
Get to know her first, a must. As about what she does for work, what she wants to do after school, what she does for fun... and eventually you can start the cordial, distanced, polite, routine inqueries of "So, got any fun plans this weekend?" (The first time, you may have some plans yourself, just in case she turns the question around on you! You don't want it to seem like you're asking her out right away.) This is a good way to find out if she's got a boyfriend. If she does, don't just stop talking to her altogether. This makes girls sad. We like friends, too.
If no boyfriend, invite her to a get-together. (Note: start having get-togethers.) This is better if there will be other girls there. Ha. Understatement. Do you have couple friends? I hope you have couple friends. But anyway, it's a nice way to have her feel like she's invited to your place but for a small gathering, rather than "going out." Dinners, movie nights, game nights, whatever. If it's at your place or someone else's, it's nice - and it often isn't construed as "going out on a date". Careful, though, if it's at a friend's; "My friend is having a dinner party... I was wondering if you'd like to come... with me..." Starts to sound like a date. Ehh. Maybe I don't have as much good advice as I thought. LOL
Fortunon! Vi trovos iu tre speciala. ^_^
Sarah
#14 by Jordon Kalilich: Tue Jan 27, 2009 17:35 EST (UTC -5)
I don't know, Sarah, your advice sounds good to me. I don't go on regular get-togethers, but I do sometimes, so that's a start. I'll definitely keep that in mind the next time I meet someone who's interesting... whenever that is.
#15 by Sarah: Tue Jan 27, 2009 17:54 EST (UTC -5)
I'm certainly an enabler for my network of friends/classmates... I have stuff all the time. Coming up next is a Valentine's Class Party, like back-in-the-day parties with cookies, punch, conversation hearts, the whole nine yards. I'm even having people bring a shoebox to decorate and everyone has to give everyone a valentine. See, you have to know morons like me who spend time and energy on ridiculous parties or... dun dun DUN... be the moron who throws them. I'm inviting all my single friends or couple friends who, like me, loathe the idea of Forced Couple Romanticism.
Find the most energetic/girlie girl you know and suggest this to her. Be like... "I read about it. On the internet. Have a party like this. For me. Ha." Tell her you will bring cupcakes and she CANNOT SAY NO.
#16 by Jordon Kalilich: Tue Jan 27, 2009 18:00 EST (UTC -5)
You know, I actually know some people who might do that, because if there's one thing women can't resist, it's sweets. But for some reason I just don't see it happening, and I would come off as pretty desperate if I asked. But I could probably try to get one someone to fix me up somehow if I wanted.